Who threw the first-ever bachelorette party? When did the tradition officially begin, and how has it changed over the years? Who was that OG trailblazing bachelorette bashes to first cut a penis out of construction paper?

What follows here is a (somewhat drunk) history of bachelor and bachelorette parties. If you’re feeling like a purist, you can work in some of these traditions to make your bachelorette party one for the ages and honor those who partied before you.

So, get ready for a fun bachelorette party history lesson! If nothing else, these ancient tidbits can be fun to share with your friends while you're pre-gaming. Just be prepared—they might tell you to please shut up and order an Uber!

Still, we think you’ll enjoy it!

Ancient and Medieval Traditions‍

Once upon a time, in the 5th century B.C. in Greece, pre-wedding parties are reported as far back as the time of the Spartans. Yep, like, shredded Gerard Butler in the movie “300.”

They didn't call them bachelor parties at the time. Credit for coining the word “bachelor” goes to Geoffrey Chaucer, author of the Canterbury Tales, first published in the 14th century. But we digress. 

The festivities in Sparta mark the first semblance of a modern bachelorette party. The soon-to-be-wed Spartan warrior was celebrated with a grand feast the night before his wedding. The groom would shake off those pre-wedding jitters and pledge his undying commitment and loyalty to his brothers-in-arms.

Imagine, “Dudes, real talk: I'm not going to flake out when Xerxes and his massive Persian army start clamoring at our gates. Bros first, always. For real.”

‍Of course, there's still an element of this to bachelor parties today. You just have to replace that Xerxes and his Persian army bit with Fantasy Football draft day.

‍The Dark Ages of Bachelorette Parties: 5th Century B.C. to 1896‍

Fast forward to medieval Europe, where the tradition of bridal showers began in the 16th century—a way for brides to collect gifts to start their new lives. These early customs set the stage for the bachelorette parties we know today, combining celebration, community, and support for the bride-to-be.

Other than that, we couldn't uncover much information about what happened to bachelorette festivities between the time of the ancient Greeks and the late 19th century.

Obviously we know people were drinking heavily and throwing down during those several thousand years.

We like to imagine the parties would have looked like certain scenes from period movies. 

P.T. Barnum's Grandson Threw the First Recorded “Stag Party” in 1896

In 1896, P.T. Barnum's grandson, Herbert Barnum Seeley, threw a raucous party for his brother at Sherry's in New York City. It became immortalized (and scandalized) as the ‘Awful Seeley Dinner.' The highlight of the night was a famous belly dancer, nicknamed “Little Egypt,” who performed naked and, rumor has it, entered the party by leaping out of a whipped cream pie. 

In the early hours of the morning, the party was dissolved by a police officer. Furious, the Seeley Family brought the officer before the police board to be charged with “conduct unbecoming to an officer of the law.” Power move. 

The Awful Seeley Dinner is significant because it sheds light on the secretive nature of bachelor parties. Makes you wonder how many of these lewd and lively parties were happening at the time behind closed doors. 

Bachelorette Parties in the 19th and Early 20th Century

A Gentleman's Sendoff Ceremony, Presumably

The pre-wedding parties for men were, on paper, relatively tame and civil affairs for the first half of the 20th century. Black tie dinners the night before the wedding are organized by the father of the groom (or bride), featuring toasts and speeches on behalf of the groom. 

Here's to you, old sport. 

Fun fact: In 1922, the term bachelor party was first published in William Chambers's Journal of Literature, Science, and Arts and was described as a jolly old party. If these jolly old parties were happening, and they must have been in the roaring 20s, they were kept under wraps. Some things never change, huh? 🙄‍

Bachelorette Parties Make It to Hollywood

Fifty years after Herbert Barnum Seeley's legendary party, the actor Jimmy Stewart, famous for his role in It's a Wonderful Life, threw the first widely reported bachelor party in Hollywood. The celebration featured a little person dressed as a baby who attempted to pee on Jimmy Stewart, allegedly setting the tone for the debauchery that would follow and continue to this day.

Women Fight for Their Right to Party‍

It wasn't until the sexual revolution of the 1960s that women began to enjoy a proper bachelorette party experience. Before, pre-wedding festivities were limited to the bridal shower. 

While both are important pre-wedding events, there are some key differences between a bridal shower vs. a bachelorette party, as you should know. Bridal showers are usually more formal and focused on gift-giving with family, while bachelorette parties are all about having a blast and bonding with your best friends in a fun, relaxed setting. Knowing these differences will help you plan each event to perfection.

Some authors have even tied the cultural significance of a bachelorette party to gender equality. In the 1960s, women started getting together the night before the wedding to honor and celebrate the bride-to-be. These parties went by different names: hen party, stagette, doe party, a girl's night out. It took until the 1980s, however, for the more modern and rowdy bachelorette party to truly take off. 

We're still relatively early in party history. In fact, the first book on planning a bachelorette bash wasn't published until 1998! We're honored to blaze this trail with you all. 

Iconic Bachelorette Party Movies Make the Festivities Mainstream

The Hangover, Bridesmaids, What Happens in Vegas, American Wedding, the list of quote-worthy bachelorette movies goes on and on. If anything, it's an indication of what a big deal the bachelorette party has become today: a special event completely separate from the wedding, often taking place weeks or months before.

What started as a single-night ceremony in 5th Century ancient Greece is now a weekend-long festivity of celebrations and partying in honor of the bride-to-be, groom, or both at the same time.

Bachelorette Parties Today‍

Today, a bachelorette party is really whatever you want it to be. Yes, it sometimes features a weekend trip to a fun destination with your besties, and it can involve at least one night of heavy drinking, but the possibilities are pretty much endless. It's about creating a fun and special trip for the party and celebrating a lifetime of friendship.

We're excited and humbled to play a small part in writing the future of pre-wedding celebrations with the Batch fam!

Notable Shifts in Party Planning

Bachelorette parties have gotten a major glow-up over the years. Nowadays, many brides are ditching the status quo to reflect their personal preferences, making sure that their celebration is truly one-of-a-kind. 

• Personalization: It’s all about tailoring the party to what the bride likes, like themed parties based on her favorite movie, fun cooking classes, or DIY craft nights. These personal touches make the event unforgettable.
• Budget-Friendly Fun: Brides are getting creative with cost-effective options that are just as fun. Local events, potluck dinners, and group outings help keep the celebration affordable without skimping on the fun.
• Social Media Magic: Social media has taken bachelorette parties to the next level. Sharing live updates and curated photo albums not only adds excitement but also encourages creative and Insta-worthy planning.
• Experience Over Partying: Modern soirees focus on shared experiences. Wellness retreats, adventurous sports, and even volunteer activities let the bride and her friends bond over meaningful activities.
• Destination Celebrations: Destination bachelorette parties are still a hit for those wanting to mix travel with celebration. Whether it’s a city weekend getaway or an exotic beach trip, they offer a refreshing break and a chance to create lasting memories.
• Inclusive Vibes: Reflecting broader social changes, bachelorette parties are now more inclusive. Friends of all genders are welcome, making the celebration a true reflection of the bride’s closest relationships and fostering a welcoming and inclusive atmosphere.

How's this for inspiration on some classy bachelorette party ideas:

• Spa Day in Atlanta, GA: A luxurious way to relax and bond. Imagine massages, facials, and lounging by the pool with your best friends.
• Zipline Tour in Asheville, NC: For the thrill-seeking bride, activities like hiking, zip-lining, or even a weekend camping trip can be exhilarating.
• Pub Crawl in Austin, TX: A classic choice that never goes out of style. Exploring local bars, enjoying signature cocktails, and dancing the night away makes for a fun-filled night.
• Themed Disco Party in Dallas, TX: From '90s nostalgia to Hollywood glam, themed parties allow everyone to dress up and have fun with creative decorations and activities.
• Wine Tasting in Dallas, TX: Visiting vineyards for wine-tasting sessions can be a sophisticated and enjoyable experience, especially for wine-loving brides.
• Cooking Class in Denver, CO: A fun and interactive way to spend time together while learning new recipes and enjoying delicious food.
• Beach Picnic in Los Angeles, CA: Renting a beach house for a weekend offers a perfect blend of relaxation and fun with sunbathing, beach games, and bonfires.
• VIP Party in Boston, MA: Attending a music festival or concert can provide an exciting and memorable experience for music enthusiasts.
• Glamping Party in Newport, RI: Escaping to a cozy cabin in the woods can offer a peaceful and intimate setting for the bride and her friends to relax, bond, and enjoy nature.

Planning a Bachelorette Party

Creating an unforgettable bachelorette event can be both exciting and a bit overwhelming. We’ve got you covered with a step-by-step guide to help you plan your bachelorette party without the headache.

But first, wouldn’t you want to get clear on exactly what a bachelorette party is all about? For a fun and detailed explanation, check out our guide on what is a bachelorette party?. Now, back to our regularly scheduled programming: 

• Set a Date: Coordinate with the bride and key guests to find a date that works for everyone.
• Create a Budget: Determine how much everyone is comfortable spending.
• Choose a Theme: Decide on a fun theme that reflects the bride's personality.
• Pick a Location: Choose a venue or destination that fits the theme and budget.
• Plan Activities: Organize activities that everyone will enjoy, from spa days to adventure trips.
• Send Invitations: Send out invites well in advance to ensure everyone can make it.
• Arrange Accommodations: If it’s an overnight event, book accommodations early to avoid disappointment.
• Prepare a Schedule: Outline the day’s or weekend’s events to keep things running smoothly.
• Pack Essentials: Make a list of what to bring, including decorations, games, and party favors.

Budgeting Tips and Resources

• Set a Clear Budget: Agree on a budget that suits everyone.
• Share Costs: Use apps like Splitwise to manage shared expenses.
• DIY Decorations: Save money by creating your own decorations and party favors.
• Group Discounts: Look for group rates on accommodations and activities.

Plan Early: Book early to take advantage of discounts and special offers.